tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post788652869983414729..comments2023-10-20T16:16:36.745+03:00Comments on triLcat Talks about Writing, Literature, and Her Life.: Modest MemeLeah Goodmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16546935038863589318noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-40285431422431394782011-05-07T00:07:12.305+03:002011-05-07T00:07:12.305+03:00My husband also has stricter requirements of me th...My husband also has stricter requirements of me than I would have imposed on myself. He has asked myself and our girls to wear opaque tights all year round, which is a challenge for me. He also requires our daughters and myself to cover all the way to our wrists. Still, I have to say that by doing so I feel I am growing spiritually - Growing in my ability to keep shalom bayis even when it's a challenge, growing in my ability to respect him, and growing in my commitment to teaching my girls that their beauty is within.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-32625618500169903962007-04-30T22:10:00.000+03:002007-04-30T22:10:00.000+03:00Safranit, that's a great line about maternity over...Safranit, that's a great line about maternity overalls and begged ish. You had me laughing out loud.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-17225562676176712842007-04-25T13:34:00.000+03:002007-04-25T13:34:00.000+03:00lady-light--hope you post about this too!lady-light--hope you post about this too!mother in israelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13715046177293916034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-40198003180212354162007-04-25T00:04:00.000+03:002007-04-25T00:04:00.000+03:00This was a really interesting post. My youngest is...This was a really interesting post. My youngest is 18, but thinking back, I slowly changed over the years to become more conscious of <I>tzniut</I>, as I became more observant. When I was pregnant with my first in 1972 (talk about a long time ago), I wore pants, but truth be told, dresses were more comfortable! By the time I had my 3rd, I was already frum, and had no regrets. But I am open-minded-frum (anyway, I like to think of myself as such.) Firstly, it is not as important to my husband; he followed <I>me</I> in returning to frumkeit; secondly, if I am hiking in the mtns. here which I haven't done in years, btw--I wear pants and hiking boots. When I tried skiing once (a total disaster!), I wore pants. I think it is dangerous to ski in a skirt. I have shirts that are a little shorter than my elbow, but the truth of the matter is, the degrees of tzniut are culturally based. What is appropriate in one locale, may not be accepted in another.<BR/>As far as feeling uncomfortable with my manner of dress among others, I do remember feeling <I>very</I> uncomfortable being bare-headed in a company of sheitel-wearing females, even if one or two did not have their hair covered. That is when I realized that I really want to cover my hair on a regular basis, and started doing so. I don't necessarily cover my hair for the standard 'tzniut' reason, that hair is too attractive to show for a married woman; I do it for other reasons, same as the men cover their heads with a kippah: I am constantly saying brachot, when I eat, after washing in the a.m., etc. So I remind myself that Hashem is above me,also out of respect. I think the 'attraction' reason doesn't necessarily fit in our society any more; I personally believe that a woman can be <I>frum</I> while not covering her hair--and it's not as if it was an actual LAW, like kashrut is. It is inferred from pesukim in the Torah. Inferred, not decreed by Hashem. But I am certain I am now 'opening up a can of worms'...Lady-Lighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04992305067771885711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-47836296288246081272007-04-24T18:51:00.000+03:002007-04-24T18:51:00.000+03:00The summer heat and humidity must be getting to me...The summer heat and humidity must be getting to me. Just thinking about wearing nylons makes me nascous. Fortunately, my husband has no issues with lack of socks/nylons. <BR/><BR/>Most my maternity clothing was bought at a consignment store. I guess I have the last generation of clothing. :)Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-56301322796723037992007-04-24T03:33:00.000+03:002007-04-24T03:33:00.000+03:00Trilcat - Great answers! I totally hear you about ...Trilcat - Great answers! I totally hear you about maternity tzniut being a challenge! I had a point during my first pregnancy where I thought I could just continue to wear stockings throughout and wasn't sure what my take on stockings/socks was altogether. Ann was born at the end of July, and I'm pretty sure I let go of the stockings thoughts at some point.<BR/><BR/>I also find that with each pregnancy, the maternity fashion style has become tighter and more suggestive - even among wearers of 'modest' clothes. So looking up to date while not revealing every bump is a bit of a challenge!<BR/><BR/>I always find it so much fun when we she-bloggers talk about things like this!RaggedyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01022064984702182705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-7393800312794933402007-04-23T20:53:00.000+03:002007-04-23T20:53:00.000+03:00Thanks trilcat, I'm going to link back to you and ...Thanks trilcat, I'm going to link back to you and the others in a few days. <BR/>When I'm pregnant I can't stand to have any kind of waistband, esp. in the summer. So those jumpers were great for me. I wonder if I still have that bag of maternity clothes--I think I told my friend she could hang on to it.<BR/>The negotiations before your marriage must have been quite interesting. Did you read frumhouse's post?mother in israelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13715046177293916034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-36903825366855195452007-04-23T19:46:00.000+03:002007-04-23T19:46:00.000+03:00I have one pair of maternity overalls that I've wo...I have one pair of maternity overalls that I've worn a few times (even though I pretty much stopped wearing pants before I got pregnant the first time) I can't figure out any way to call any maternity close "beged Ish"<BR/><BR/>RAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20092279.post-22578090856183788362007-04-23T19:37:00.000+03:002007-04-23T19:37:00.000+03:00LOL! Nice answers! Hopefully, you and your husba...LOL! Nice answers! Hopefully, you and your husband will find a happy medium you can both live with. Elbows...hee hee.frumhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02735783157413222489noreply@blogger.com