Mom in Israel made up a new Meme for those of us who deal with the issues of tzniut, the Jewish laws & traditions of modesty.
Though I wasn't tagged, I've decided it might make interesting reading for someone (maybe me) if I answered it...
1. For married women, do you dress by the same standards as you did when you got married?
Yes, but I've only been married about a year.
2. Also for married women, do you and your husband conflict about this issue?
Yes. My husband is much more strict about these rules than I would like to be.
3. Have your standards changed from when you were growing up, and why?
Yes and no. My beliefs haven't changed. I'd dress the same as I did when I was growing up, but my husband would have heart failure if I did.
4. Do you often feel uncomfortable when you are in the company of a group keeping higher or lower standards than you?
Yes. I feel like the knee-sock wearers are looking down on me, and like the chilonim all think that I'm one of those crazy charedi women.
5. If you have ever suddenly changed your standard of dress, did people treat you differently or make approving/disapproving remarks?
I got a fair amount of sympathy, but not a lot of approval or disapproval. I guess I have nice friends.
6. How accepting is your community of women who "deviate" from the generally accepted mode of dress?
I live in a mixed community, so it's not really a problem.
7. If you have a daughter, has tzniut become an issue yet?
We don't have one yet, but the standards we want for our daughters has already become an issue in our marriage (sometimes we really buy trouble, don't we?)
8. Any other comments you care to share on the topic.
I want my pants back!!!!!!!! I always dreamed of being pregnant in big overalls. And my elbows! Hello, it's freaking hot out. I want my elbows!